are jewish girls hard to approach?

JW commented that frum girls are "ridiculously hard to ask out". Is that really true?

I'll admit that it must be kind of intimidating to approach a girl when she's surrounded by her posse (and jewish girls always have a posse). But it's hard to approach any group of people when you're alone, never mind when the goal is to start a meaningful convo with someone you've been eyeing.

But since when is a frum Jewish girl harder to approach than anyone else? Maybe it's just because you guys psych yourself out!

I wish more frum Jewish guys had more guts... why is it that the only cuties who approach me are never the ones I can take home?

would you attend a frum singles shabbaton?

some friends of mine have been talking about making a frum singles shabbaton over Labor Day Weekend. Would you come?

tichel + tank top = tres bizarre

my devoted reader, frum single female (i guess she's not keeping her maiden name when she gets married - although its slightly better than "talula does the hula in hawaii") made a comment on a recent post about how she sees women at the gym wearing tichels and tank tops.

I've noticed a new trend where women cover their hair but show their cleavage. While i would never judge anyone based on the way they dress (ok, maybe i judge, but it's a middah I'm working on........ slowly......) I'm pretty sure that something about that combination is a little whack.

OK, granted, sometimes it's hard to keep everything perfectly covered 100% of the time - a high neck can be stifling and it isn't easy finding shirts that aren't too low-cut, and it can be damn difficult to cover up the abundance that which Hashem gave some of us plenty. (i'm trying to be allegorical, I'm not sure I've succeeded.)

But I guess I just expect more from a woman who has chosen to cover her hair. Maybe I shouldn't expect anything of anyone but myself.

And another trend - women who 'kinda' cover their hair. I'm talking about women who keep you on your toes about what they will wear next - a Sheitel to a frummy wedding, a Fall in Flatbush, just a baseball cap or a bandanna everywhere else. I wonder if I'm going to be like that one day.... (or will I have more principles?)

is he just not that into me?

have you seen the movie preview for the upcoming flick "he's just not that into you" ? (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wwXYOr5ZYxc&feature=related)

i went out with this really nice guy a week ago and had an awesome first date. i know - that's usually an oxymoron right? but i really had a great time.

so anyhow, it's been over a week and i haven't heard from him since. well, he did message me online, but he didn't mention anything about a follow-up. i know he's busy with school and exams right now. so maybe that's his excuse. and i thought he had fun too.

but maybe he's just not that into me?

solving the shidduch crisis

I HAVE A SOLUTION!

So I've heard that there are too many frum single girls...

And I've also heard that there aren't enough chassidish single girls...

So...................................

Anyone want a Satmar cutie?

(think he'll let me wear jogging pants?)

jogging pants at the gym

As many of you probably know, a few years ago i traded in my gap jeans for gap jean skirts. It was a pretty easy decision - at the time, i was packing for my trip to the Holy Land wondering what my ancestors would think if they saw their great-granddaughter sporting a pair of tight pants at a Tel Aviv 'disco'. I didn't think they would be too impressed.

And so, after that moment, i decided that a tznius girl is what i'd be.

Weeeeelllllll, for the most part.

I still haven't been able to part with my comfy sweatpants. Working out in a skirt is just not the same. I need my sweats and my bratop and a t-shirt to keep me going during my workouts. I know the look isn't the most frum, but it's comfortable.

The only uncomfortable part is when I see other frummies at the Gym who probably think I'm a shiksa. But maybe they won't recognize me with my hair in a bun and a sweaty, no-makeup face?

mir boys are not for mir - part II - and neither is kollel

What's up with those girls who are into marrying Kollel guys?

Do those girls have a death wish? Is the idea of having children, cleaning a house, preparing dinner, AND working to support a husband, really that enticing?

I understand that some men are talmid chachams and really should learn for the sake of Klal Yisrael. But what about the other 80% of guys who claim to be sitting in kollel all day? And doesn't it say in some Good Book somewhere that it is up to a Man to earn a living and support his family? Isn't that one of the requirements written in a Ketuba - that a man must provide for his wife?

I just dont get it.

mir boys are not for mir

So i've been meeting all types of guys here in the Holy Land. Not just guys I've been set up with, but also random guys that I meet at Israel's tourist attractions who invite me and my friends out for drinks. (it's rude to say no to a free drink, isn't it? and everything is kosher here!)

A few nights ago, my friends and I randomly bumped into a group of Yeshiva bochurs at a hangout near Ben Yehuda. We instantly became friends (duh!) and hung out together that evening. They told us, rather reluctantly, (a fact which we later confirmed) that they were learning at the Mir Yeshiva.

Some of my Bais Yacov-educated friends let me know that when they were in high school, a Mir boy was the Brad Pitt of every BY girl's fantasy. A Mir boy was/is considered the epitome of a good, serious yeshiva boy that a nice BY girl should dream of marrying (ie supporting through kollel).

My friends were thus surprised to discover that these Prince Charmings of their high school dreams were actually not as 'perfect' as they 'should' be. These boys drank, smoked, hung out with girls (maybe did more), etc... BUT they did say that they could only hang out with us in 'out-of-the-way' places at night. Mir boy by day, bad boy by night. More like Batman than Prince Charming.

Maybe I'm the only one that leading this kind of double life is insane. Not to mention a lie. I guess Mir boys are just not for me.

Worth a listen

This song is pretty popular in the Holy Land, and also comes very well recommended by a friend of mine, so please click here:

http://youtube.com/watch?v=u-mYh3tjeCs

The group is called HaMoshava and the song is Yam. Here's their myspace:
http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=301704138

facebook = not tznius?

oy vey. these shadchans give me headaches. one of my friends comes back from one shadachan who tells her that she shouldn't be on facebook, because it doesn't look good. another friend comes back from another shadchan who herself is on facebook!

so which is it? how frum is facebook?

Maidel on Holiday

I know. I've been bad lately. 10 days and no post. But i've been on holiday. First sick, now all better and in the Holy Land! I'm hoping to meet up with some friends here and take a few summer courses at Sem. Anyone want to meet???

breaking up with shadchans

so i went on this date the other day with a guy suggested to me by a shadchan.

the date itself wasn't too bad, but the guy was just soooo not for me. i hate to write anyone off after the first five seconds, but i could just tell by his outfit that things would go nowhere. (im not usually so materialistic, ok maybe i am, but seriously - his pants were pulled up so high he was practically giving himself a wedgie!)

even if i dont like a guy, i make sure to do the decent thing and attempt to make conversation. maybe this guy thought i was into it, because at the end of the date, he says "so, do you want to meet again?" This is AFTER he's already asked me whether I want to go through the Shadchan, to which I responded YES (even though I'm not normally a Shadchan type of girl). Unfortunately, I'm not that great with the word NO, so when he asked for a second date, I was like "ummmmmm, ya, sure!". Oy vey. What to do now????

Should I just send the breakup message to the Shadchan? Is that the easy way out?