Monday, July 21, 2008

mir boys are not for mir - part II - and neither is kollel

What's up with those girls who are into marrying Kollel guys?
Do those girls have a death wish? Is the idea of having children, cleaning a house, preparing dinner, AND working to support a husband, really that enticing?
I understand that some men are talmid chachams and really should learn for the sake of Klal Yisrael. But what about the other 80% of guys who claim to be sitting in kollel all day? And doesn't it say in some Good Book somewhere that it is up to a Man to earn a living and support his family? Isn't that one of the requirements written in a Ketuba - that a man must provide for his wife?
I just dont get it.


Anonymous said...

i couldnt agree more maidel. as a BY graduate, i grew up learning that the ultimate thing a wife can do is have supper ready on time for your husband, so he doesnt have to waste a minute of learning. forget helping with the dishes!

Frayda said...

Sad that girls actually buy into this way of thinking. But if I was a guy, I would love it!

Honestly Frum said...

I think that in some instances the Kesubah should be changed to the father in law supporting the wife from the husband!

Anonymous said...

I completely agree.

Child Ish Behavior said...

It was the women who want the men learning in Kollel. Didn't you know?
It all has to do with the curse of chava being removed in our generation.

Maidel said...

sorry childish - but im pretty sure that women still go through the pains of childbirth, so chava's curse still applies! women who want hubbies in kollel usually do only because they are taught that this is an ideal situation. i remember seminary girls crying after they met with a mekubal who told them to marry "earners" rather than "learners"!