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I met this guy while out with friends and thought he was so cute and quite possibly Potential.
Then he asked me out.
He's really nice.
And he keeps telling me how he's so into me.
And how he can't wait to get to know me better.
And he constantly messaging me little love notes.
But for some reason, it all just freaks me out.
What's wrong with me?
Tuesday, March 24, 2009
what's wrong with me?
love, Maidel at 4:17 PM
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There's nothing wrong with you. I would be a little freaked out if a guy I barely knew was sending me love notes. It's one thing if he tells you he wants to get to know you better, but it's another thing to send love notes to some you haven't spent much time with and gotten to know.
Never good when the dude or girl is obssesive/stalking.
It's very hard to know from your description if this guy is obsessive or stalking. What do you mean by "love notes"? "MM, you're so cute"? "MM, I can't wait to see you tonight" (assuming you have a date)? That's not stalking, unless he's sending them 10 times a day. You could always ask him (nicely) to tone it down a little bit until you DO know each other better. Fundamentally, if you don't feel comfortable, then you should skip it, but if he's not actually acting stalkerish, maybe you should give it more time.
Too much, too soon. It would freak me out too.
the fun of the chase is over... not that it really ever began
There's nothing wrong with you.. That's a perfectly normal occurrence with some new.
Youre just not used to someone doing something like this.
Lol. Love notes?
Okay, I'll stop.
You're right to be nervous. He's coming on too strong.
Right now, I'm happily married, but getting to that state involved learning a few tough lessons about courtship and dating-- one of them is that women are naturally suspicious about large quantities of early enthusiasm in a relationship.
Good luck to you, and, hopefully, Romeo will figure out that most women don't care to be smothered.
nothign wrong with you, like everyone has already said, hes moving WAAAAAYYY to quickly for you.
but, its the perfect oppurtunity to examine your response to him - why is it weirding you out? is he a creepy stalker? do you not feel worthy of his attentions? is there a certain laciviousness to him thas giving you the creeps.....
t could just be that this guy is very needy emotionally, and that may or may not be ok with you. but you should keep your eyes and ears open for that either way.
I'm not sure why people see this guy as a stalker. Seems quite sweet to me. Maybe you're just not as ready for a relationship as you think you are.
Really depends on the content of the notes.
Nothing wrong with you at all. In my unfortunately vast experience the problem is that subconsciously you suspect that none of what he says is true. How can he like you and care for you so much when he doesn't even know you? Is it the real you he's infatuated with or some fantasy he's built in his mind?
I concur with Moshe.
As well I think "A" has a very strong point. My life experience has taught me similar.
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