Thursday, March 12, 2009

prude prude prude

Is there anything wrong with being prude?
Obviously, for someone who keeps Shomer Negiah, touching is not an option. But is that the same thing as being prude? Can't you be prude and still shake someone's hand? Or is being prude more about a person's views on non-prude behavior?
I've been called prude on many occasions - by guys who wished I would do more touching - and if that makes me prude, then so be it. Call me a tease, call me a prude, but at least I've got my pride intact when we break up.

9 comments:

Anonymous said...

You can't be prude. You can be a prude (n.) or prudish (adj.).

nameless, faceless said...

MM don't stress over the grammar -- I always find spelling errors, etc. after I put a post up....

Anyway, good point about what happens *after* people stop seeing each other; the question becomes what will/will not make you embarrassed?

Even with all my foibles, there is only one incident I regret wholeheartedly yet that singular occasion is enough to make me feel a little less about myself....

NotaGeek! said...

Why would somebody call you a prude, when you're explaining to them your reasoning...
It just sounds like coercion, by calling you a name, then you might feel guilty.

Anonymous said...

just wanted to say that the words (and idea, besides nida) of "shomer negia" do not........ at all........


exist..............

in judaism.

Judaism =
to be chrystal clear.....
Ju⋅da⋅ism   /ˈdʒudiˌɪzəm, -deɪ-, -də-/ Show Spelled Pronunciation [joo-dee-iz-uhm, -dey-, -duh-] Show IPA
–noun 1. the monotheistic religion of the Jews, having its ethical, ceremonial, and legal foundation in the precepts of the Old Testament and in the teachings and commentaries of the rabbis as found chiefly in the Talmud.

Its great that all you idiots obssess about it.
(ask a real Rabbi if you can Kiss a non-menstrating girl/women)

then attack me LOL..

Jessica said...

I agree with NotaGeek. They're just trying to make you feel guilty for "teasing" them so that you'll do what they want you to do.

NotaGeek! said...

In RE to Jessica:
Actually in some cases it wouldn't be coercion just teasing. But here using the the P :) word, sounds like coercion.

On a side note... What up with all these anonymous posters, posting long rants, and being rude and impolite...
Like in real life you'd say, if you have something to say, say it to the persons face.

EsPes said...

i think u can only be "a prude" if ur not shomer negiah...

ive been called prude before and i answered with a thank u.

chanie said...

Why is it prude not to touch? Davka the opposite seems much more so, unless, of course, you're married to the person you're touching.

muse said...

Being a "prude" is respecting yourself. I see that nothing's new. Guys will always insult a female who won't give in, whether in the religious world or not.

If you're using halacha as your reason, then be consistent.

Believe me, nothing's new. Sex and sexual temptation has always existed, even thousands of years ago and also in your grandmother's time. So anyone who says that Hilchot Negi'ah are old fashioned is out and out lying.