Am I a golddigger?
I started wondering about that after someone brought up the whole Tiger Woods scandal at the Shabbos table last week. I made the argument that his wife knew what she was in for. Her story is reminiscent of a Jackie Collins novel: European blond aspiring-model moves to Hollywood, lands nanny position for famous tennis pro, marries even more famous tennis pro. She was looking for money & fame, and she got it.
Interestingly enough, my dad came to her defense - what's wrong with a woman wanting to marry well? Aren't I hoping for the same?
Well no dad, I'm not hoping to marry some kajillionaire who is definitely likely to cheat on me. But I'll admit that financial security is near the top of my checklist in my search for 'the One'.
I recently went on a date with a guy who was very sweet, very nice, a lot of fun to be around. But I just couldn't get over the fact that if things went well, that I would make more money than him. I was actually more relaxed than usual on that date because even before we met I went into it thinking I couldn't possibly get serious with someone who did THAT for a living. I'd tell you what 'that' was, but then you'd really think I was a snob.
I told my friend this and she said I was nuts. But I like the idea of a man being the main breadwinner - it makes a man seem more manly. I like to think I'm actual being post-feminist about this. I chose to go to school, to get a great education, to seek out a real profession (ie I didn't do the typical Brooklyn girl thing which is to go into special ed or one of those 'therapies' - today's version of the 'secretary or teacher' option of the pre-feminist 1950s, in my humble opinion). But I'd also like to choose to stay home when I have kids (IYH, of course) and not have to worry about extending mat leave after just 3 months like so many women I know.
Am I asking for too much?
Friday, December 25, 2009
Am I a golddigger?