Wednesday, October 21, 2009

boys who talk to breasts

This post might be a little cliché, but considering that my breasts have been included in conversation at least three times today, I thought that maybe they were also deserving of a write-up.
Yes, I know that you're looking at them.
And yes, I saw you jerk when you saw that I saw you looking. You jerk.
I get it - you're a guy. You can't help yourself. You see a girl with big boobs and your man-instinct goes into overdrive.
(interestingly enough, being married with kids hasn't stopped one of today's men)
Is it my fault if I sometimes have cleavage issues? Maybe I should be more careful about covering up the collarbones, but I just don't look as good in a turtleneck. (and they aren't even in style this season) Maybe subconsciously I like the attention. Maybe I only notice the attention when I'm being self-conscious. Do you also look when I'm wearing a high-necked Kikki-Rikki?
I used to get offended when a guy would comment on my chest (admittedly, I've hung around the wrong type of guys in the past). Maybe I've gotten so used to it, that I just don't care anymore. I actually kind of smile and say thank you. Maybe I should stop that. It only encourages them.

21 comments:

Anonymous said...

why should being married mean a guy is no longer instinctively drawn to look at the big boobs? guys love boobs, and that is the way it is. if you've got a nice rack, and especially if you show them off and make them even more attractive, guys will look.

It is harmless, so don't worry about it. And if you don't want guys to look, don't show them off.

Pocket Princess said...

I figured out early on that Kikki-Rikkis don't help much either because the ones that fit well enough to cover your collarbones also fit snuggly around your twins. If you buy the looser kind then your collarbones run the risk of exposure.

People can argue both ways:

Bare Clavicle vs. Shape of Breasts?

(GRIN) We should just stop shaving our chins and give these guys something more horrifying to stare at.

BigPhil said...

At risk of embrassing myself in front of MM's readership (and possibly being barred from commenting ever again), can I ask what is a "Kikki Rikki"?

Altie said...

it's a thin t-shirt, long sleeved, I think, and it is meant to be worn under other shirts, to make the neckline tznius. It's usually a tight material, and clings to you.

Data said...

TMI.

Anonymous said...

I am a male (older than many of you here). I am one of those people that makes a point not to look below one's head while conversing. Than doesn't mean that I don't see (at least peripherally) what is going on around me. It's just mentchlechkeit.

Once, one of my (non-Jewish) coworkers showed up completely covered up but bra-less. Her form-fitting top did not leave much to the imagination. It took a lot of effort to maintain concentration on conversation with her because I had to be overly careful to never glance away from her head.

I also had to be extra careful not to even glance unnecessarily in her direction throughout the day, lest it betaken the wrong way. (I am sure that she knew how she appeared to others. I am not sure why she did it; it was a one-time thing, thank G-d.)

Frum Punk said...

Sorry, what? I didn't hear what you said. Got a bit distracted there...

N said...

lol @ frum punk. I think you hit it on the head MM. wrong crowd...

Anonymous said...

this is the kind of post that makes me completely wonder why i still read your blog

Maidel said...

anon - are u one of those guys?

DYS said...

One of the problems is the increasing number of women who wear T-shirts with writing over their breasts (or on their rear ends). So I, without thinking, start reading what's written, and then glance away embarrassed, afraid that the woman thought I was ogling her.

frumsatire said...

Hey what if the guy is really short or the girl is really tall?

Anonymous said...

MM, I'll be the first honest one to post. As a guy our eyes are naturaly attrackted to your chest. If you wear a tight shirt we are going to stare. Don't be offended, be flattered.

Anonymous said...

Now everyone is really curious what mm looks like in person...

Anonymous said...

MM, There is a gemara that says that Hashem made female anatomy this way (with something to stare at, near eye-level) to prevent men from staring at the makom erva. I always find this gemara interesting...Hashem could've just changed man's instinct...

tembow said...

maidel-
no im a girl who is just disgusted with this post

Anonymous said...

Anonymous wrote:
"There is a gemara that says..."

Source, please?

Anonymous said...

First perek of megilla, but I don't recall where (I'll look it up...).

chanief said...

Ah yes, every girl with a substantially sized rack has dealt with this on many occasions. It's annoying but what can a girl do, they're there and men have eyes. I get the urge once in a while, when dealing with a particularly bad offender, to snap and say "hello?! My eyes are up here?"

eiran said...

Hum.... i wanna see and talk either !!! lol

Moshe said...

"Why do women have boobs? So you got something to look at while you’re talking to them."
- Peter Griffin