tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7594551858000480911.post7674170102026972819..comments2023-10-11T22:45:32.049-04:00Comments on material maidel: the only boys with beitzimMaidelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11342989598403517433noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7594551858000480911.post-51455972215584803772009-05-08T16:15:00.000-04:002009-05-08T16:15:00.000-04:00It is funny you wrote about this. About 2 years ag...It is funny you wrote about this. About 2 years ago I had an argument with a friend. She said no guys ever approach girls.. they're shy.. (the dateable types anyways) and I argued that guys don't approach girls because they get shot down, and hence it's led to guys not asking girls. <br /><br />So we made a bet... I was to make a minimum of 3 attempts to asking random girls out.<br /><br />The rules..<br /><br />1. The girls in question, I have to not know at all.<br />2. I have to think they're attractive.<br />3. I can only ask out girls who I think (from first impressions) could be real potential. (No monkey business, and no messing around with someone else's emotions)<br /><br />If she is right, they'll say yes, then I owe my friend a slurpi. If I am able to actually form a relationship with the girl in question, then I also owe my friend a sushi dinner and her restaurant of choice.<br /><br />If I was right, and the girl would say no.. I get the sushi dinner.. and if the girl said yes but later backed out or gave a fake/wrong number then I would just receive a slurpi.<br /><br />Trial 1. Simchas Torah 2006.. I met a girl.. didn't get the chance, but knew her friend who got me her contact, after yom tov I then asked.. and She said "yes".. <br /><br />She however would not confirm a date, and seemed very mocking during our conversation... I finally made the decision to believe that she was yanking my chain, and so I never contacted her a second time. <br /><br />Trial 2. Met a girl in the cafeteria at University.. realized I could ask her out.. planned to the next day. Next day rolls around I find out she switched into the very same course sitting with myself and a friend. I didn't want to go through an awkward semester if it didn't work out, and so I put this girl out of my mind.<br /><br />Trial 3. Went to a wedding in Chicago, met a girl seated at my table, towards the end of the evening i asked her out.. she said "yes". We went out for a month or two.. didn't work out in the end, for normal reasons.<br /><br /><br />Bottom Line. since I was successful with at least 1 girl, I owed my friend the sushi dinner, and a slurpi. I also got a slurpi out of this due to girl#1.<br /><br />I also learnt two lessons...<br /><br />1. Guys really don't get rejected all too often unless they really come off insecure, we can and should approach girls in proper conditions/places. That being said, I have never gone up to and asked another girl out since then.. decided to wait till I was old enough to start the shiduch scene.. currently mixed into that.. I'm considering asking the next 'potential' girl I meet.. could be fun.<br /><br />2. Never ever, NOT call a girl because you think she is yanking your chain... I bumped into girl from trial#1 months later... she apparently was very pissed off that I never contacted her a second time. The girl now hates me, and thinks pretty low of me.. (two dumb buddies mentioned the date-bet/scheme to her as she was storming out... and they didn't know all the details... )<br /><br />oh and lesson 3. never date for a bet.. looks reeeaaallly bad.Jvin85https://www.blogger.com/profile/09092225599617547954noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7594551858000480911.post-31014156506925736342009-05-03T00:50:00.000-04:002009-05-03T00:50:00.000-04:00I am siding on the guys' side with this one. I was...I am siding on the guys' side with this one. I was once one of those awkward types, and after many frustrated attempts, I just decided to work on myself. Young Jewish men just need to work on the "whole person concept," as we call it in the Air Force. It's very effective.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04799913983784245603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7594551858000480911.post-90887591461141486402009-04-22T12:08:00.000-04:002009-04-22T12:08:00.000-04:00Hey anonymous, how about having the beitzim to use...Hey anonymous, how about having the beitzim to use your name if you got something to say.Ookamikunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01145237927656807738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7594551858000480911.post-41631898645533295202009-04-22T11:04:00.000-04:002009-04-22T11:04:00.000-04:00did I say I was an aidel maidel? i'm pretty sure I...did I say I was an aidel maidel? i'm pretty sure I didn't....Maidelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11342989598403517433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7594551858000480911.post-61812598758248548652009-04-22T09:54:00.000-04:002009-04-22T09:54:00.000-04:00I'm still confused about how you can be so frum an...I'm still confused about how you can be so frum and eidel and still use the word 'beitzim", which is not only a word one wouldn't use in English in mixed company, it's a word the gamara no less says not to use because of tznius! (The Talmud tractate by that name is called "bayah" instead, for that reason)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7594551858000480911.post-60871263507890013422009-04-21T08:36:00.000-04:002009-04-21T08:36:00.000-04:00groovy postgroovy postlars sahlomhttp://dadoichzlig.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7594551858000480911.post-60369585071843628752009-04-21T05:52:00.000-04:002009-04-21T05:52:00.000-04:00The very reason timid fellows are afraid to approa...The very reason timid fellows are afraid to approach girls is because the girl might consider them the kind of guy they would "want to run away from". Better safe than sorry man..הצעיר שלמה בן רפאל לבית שריקי ס"טhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04835340110056405173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7594551858000480911.post-21230733448483209192009-04-21T01:29:00.000-04:002009-04-21T01:29:00.000-04:00Still confused about the type of guys you're refer...Still confused about the type of guys you're referring to...Ookamikunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01145237927656807738noreply@blogger.com