tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7594551858000480911.post6238739739114997170..comments2023-10-11T22:45:32.049-04:00Comments on material maidel: words can hurtMaidelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11342989598403517433noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7594551858000480911.post-61181174491870344892008-06-23T10:13:00.000-04:002008-06-23T10:13:00.000-04:00FRUMHOUSE,i'm not sure if i'm reading you correctl...FRUMHOUSE,<BR/><BR/>i'm not sure if i'm reading you correctly or not, but (imho) words don't have that type of power, so it is irrelevant what she was wishing for it (consciously or unconsciously). she can feel guily if she wants to, but not for that specific reason.<BR/><BR/>the rest of your comment seems right on target.Lion of Zionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10342299133387602141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7594551858000480911.post-64485746479977817682008-06-20T10:47:00.000-04:002008-06-20T10:47:00.000-04:00this is a problem that exists in the orthodox comu...this is a problem that exists in the orthodox comunity, you can know EVERYTHING about others. for me it is one of the worst things about the orthodox communities. i can understand why it happens and i know i wouldnt be better but still, it is something that always makes me feel sad! <BR/>now maidel, what can you do? in reality not much as you still want to go to starbucks with your friends, but you CAN refrain from telling loshon hora even if it might make you less popular! you have more than enough fans here that think you are great and loads of fun \\ //Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7594551858000480911.post-70721181282596251992008-06-20T09:04:00.000-04:002008-06-20T09:04:00.000-04:00Yes, words have power. However, I doubt any of yo...Yes, words have power. However, I doubt any of you were consciously wishing for the boy or his family to get sick. You feel guilty for speaking loshon horah about these people, and it sounds like you are on the road to teshuvah. <BR/><BR/>Perhaps you and your friends can do something proactive like offer to help the mom with babysitting or errands during this rough time. Maybe you can arrange some meals for the family among your friends if the mom is not up to cooking or at the hospital.<BR/><BR/>To me all these would be better alternatives than feeling overwhelmed with guilt or even fasting. However, it speaks to your thoughtful nature that you have thought about your actions and their effects to this degree.frumhousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02735783157413222489noreply@blogger.com